Needs of Children Forgotten - State not protecting the rights of fathers - NashuaTelegraph.com

State not protecting the rights of fathers (?)- NashuaTelegraph.com

In Response to the article below:

Women who have been abused by their former spouses - do not lie about the abuse because to do so would mean they were an unfriendly parent and they risk losing custody. In NH this happens too often. These court records are "open to the public" and if you actually sat in or reviewed case files you would see a much different story - look up the fathers rights groups presidents records and you will find men who couldn't be around prior to the divorce due to being busy nursing their additions, but are whining following the divorce because they have to pay child support.

 

Moreover, you will find men who do this switch – it’s ok for the wife to provide full-time day care but the child should be with him because she’s unfit. Seriously ... so it’s ok for someone to be unfit as a daycare provider as long as you do not have to pay support and you inhibit her right to get a job and keep her in court with frivolous pleadings?

The Governor as well as the people reading this trash - need to look at the real evidence and court records. Cultural Context as recently as the late 80’s and early 90’s show the police did not want to interfere in family matters and routinely had the abuser walk around the block to cool off. Mandatory arrest policies only came up in the mid-1990 and many victims of domestic violence do report for fear of retribution when the abuser is released. Rarely do women make false allegations; when they do, they do not gain any tactical advantage by making such reports. Men are using the children as bargaining chips to further control their former wives. What’s worst is that supporting professionals such as Guardian ad litems are poorly trained in this state and only require an associate in anything.

Signs of the abusive parent in court documents show they are not visiting at appointed times disappointing children and requiring mothers to cancel their limited work schedules. Withholding child support and spousal support, failing to pay utility, household or credit card bills; letting the house go into foreclosure; failing to sign quadros releasing the wifes assests: evicting mother and child because their name is not on the deed; threatening to take the children away, so the mother will never see them again; threatening to have a mother deported; and failing to legalize the mother’s immigration status.

So Lucille Lapinskas can you read this or do you need to complain that the type is to small - just enlarge the page, just as you could have moved your seat up in a 8/11/99 nashua planning board committee go get the real facts before you jump on someones band wagon.

Obviously, as an angry fathers right advocate you are backing the theory by Richard Gardner of Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS).

All Fathers do not back this theory due to the other implications involved provided below and because normal couples getting a divorce no matter the circumstances understand the importance of both parents roles and not disrupting the childrens lives because they are not divorcing us (these of course are the true grown-ups).

As far as creditability within fathers rights group pushing the PAS theroy - everyone should be aware of the following flaws in and around the concept created by Richard Gardner for the purposes of use:

1) The American Psychological Association characterized PAS without scientific basis, rendering it junk science

2) If you read Gardner's entire book which (another red flag - is self published) Garndner also advocated deviant, sexual behaviors, including sexual sadism, child sexual abuse, necrophilia, and sex involving animals, enemas, or uriation as beneficial, normal behaviors. He also blamed Jews for laws criminalizing child sexual abuse, (if this isn't enough red flags for you - oophs another red flag) Gardner committed sucide by repeatedly plunging a knife into his chest and neck while overdosing on drugs.

3) Incest allegations are rare in divorce cases only 2-3% and professionals lack the necessary time and experience to identify it as such

4) Gardner also advocated pedophilia as an honorable lifestyle choice

So what are the other factors guiding their anger??

 

FYI: Women leave and/or have affairs because they are not getting attention from their significant others. Men have affairs more often because they can.

A family actually means they people who are always going to be in your life no matter what, whether its divorce or death they are still family whether or not there are two parents in the home at one time. Moreover, parents in this state and Massachusetts can be two men or two women. The men can get custody and in this state it usually wrongly split down the middle. Children changing homes constantly - that’s fair?

THERE ARE NO WINNERS. These are children but your whining like their property - what about them - shouldn't they have the same situation as before your divorce? If you stayed married the time with each parent wouldn't have changed. Instead men and/or women like you would rather have them as a trophy indicating you "won." And then you have no problem putting them in daycare or after school programs because you don't have the time to be with them. Spending money there apparently isn't a problem. The children are not divorcing you or your spouse.

There are no winners in divorces and there is no justice for the cheating spouse - there should be. There should also be monetary charges for those in contempt of court orders and for those who failed to follow the court orders, however a parent’s behavior absent Domestic Violence - should not dictate where the children reside.

Resources are available for both men and women – while it may seem to be women are using them more. It could be due to the facts which are; women routinely put off their education to help their husbands fulfill their quest and stay home with the family and when divorce enters the picture men do not want to pay them to continue - because they view it as failing at something. Instead you fail your children.

 

Save the men, forget the polar bears.

American men are endangered by woman tempting, taunting and marrying them, then tossing them out like used Kleenex when they get bored being wives and mothers.

Sweethearts and loving fathers, men are now bad guys who can’t be trusted with equal parenting and are so broke they can’t afford legal assistance.

The wife gets custody of the children, aka cash cows, and red carpet treatment from the government, courtesy of taxpayers, in women’s shelters providing food stamps, Section 8 housing, Medicaid, WIC, fuel assistance, free counseling, free college, etc.

False domestic violence and marital rape charges, ensuring an emergency status, may be accepted without evidence or fear of perjury, resulting in police and military men kissing their careers goodbye and facing imprisonment. Missing custody payments means jail time while mom does not have to account for the money or her parenting.

Gov. John Lynch requested my vote on election eve in a restaurant . I requested his support for New Hampshire fathers. He invited me to meet with him and now seems to be fudging. His assistant appears to blame judges who do not make laws.

Ask your state representatives why they refuse to give equal justice to divorced fathers and why the governor is not protecting the best interests of New Hampshire children (HB 139).

Is fraud, discrimination and excessive welfare involved?

Lucille Lapinskas

Nashua